Happy New Year or Happy New You?
It’s so easy to say “Happy New Year” and set New Year’s resolutions, but it’s not as easy to follow through and achieve those goals. Why is that?
Many of us began 2023 with the intention of succeeding at our resolutions but either didn’t achieve them or couldn’t stick with them long enough to make them permanent. Then, in 2024, we started with the same intentions—and often the same resolutions—but once again fell short.
Here we are in 2025. Will this year be a repeat of the last few? I hope not!
By now, you may have recognised certain patterns in your life. The real question is: Why can’t you keep your New Year’s resolutions? Why do you always fall short?
I believe I might have an idea why this keeps happening. If you don’t break these patterns, you’ll likely continue failing every year. Living a life of failure is not what you were born for—hopefully, you agree.
The issue here is an internal one. It has nothing to do with willpower. This is an inside job; one you must undertake yourself to free yourself from within.
Only when the inner work is done can you truly succeed in keeping your promises to yourself.
In this blog, I’ll address two key points that might be holding you back. You may identify with both or just one of them, but either way, I hope these insights help you start the transformation you’re seeking.
- Beliefs That Don’t Align With What You Want
Have you ever wanted to achieve something and tried everything, putting your whole heart into it, yet it still didn’t work out? You might start thinking all sorts of negative things about yourself.
The truth is that your internal beliefs may not align with your desires. You might want something, but deep down, you don’t believe you’re worthy of it, or you don’t think it’s possible.
Here’s the harsh reality: You will always get what you believe internally to be true, even if your actions suggest otherwise.
The only way out is to become self-aware and recognise what you truly believe. Then, you must replace limiting beliefs with positive ones that align with your goals.
For example, if you’ve internalised negative beliefs because of words spoken over you—perhaps by your parents, peers, or even something you saw on TV—you need to identify these sources. Once you know where these beliefs came from, you can begin to distance yourself from those influences. Surround yourself with people who build you up instead of tearing you down.
It’s also important to acknowledge that some things simply aren’t meant for you. Chasing after something that’s not aligned with your purpose can cause unnecessary pain. Learn to humble yourself and let go of what isn’t for you.
- Failing Yourself Repeatedly
Another common reason for falling short is a pattern of failing to honour your own commitments.
For example, you might say you’ll do something small, like take out the washing, drop something off at a friend’s house, or make a call—but then you don’t follow through.
Over time, this habit of breaking promises to yourself trains your mind for failure. When something truly important comes along, you struggle to keep that commitment as well.
If you’ve been doing this for years, it’s no surprise that you feel frustrated or disappointed in yourself. It’s not just about others losing respect for you; it’s about you losing respect for yourself.
The good news is that you can stop this pattern.
Start by forgiving yourself and showing yourself grace. Then, begin small.
For instance, if you’ve committed to vacuuming the house tomorrow, make it a priority to do it first thing in the morning. Setting reminders can also help. Focus on one or two tasks at a time, not an overwhelming list.
Each time you follow through on your word, you’re practicing success. Over time, those daily resolutions will build the foundation for achieving bigger goals.
When you practice integrity with yourself, you cultivate self-respect and self-love.
Loving yourself means not wanting to suffer your own failures.
A Matter of Record
Whatever we do in life is recorded—either for us or against us.
When you consistently fail to honour your commitments, it’s recorded against you. Conversely, when you succeed in keeping your word, it’s recorded for your benefit.
Think of your heart as a bank account. Are you in overdraft or in credit? When you’re in credit, you’ll find yourself capable of achieving more and more.
Self-transformation takes courage, but it’s worth it. Love yourself enough to break negative patterns. It’s time to free yourself.
Happy New You!
As we enter 2025, I want to wish you a Happy New You!
This year, let’s focus on internal transformation. Once you’re free from within, your external life will never be the same.
I hope this article has helped you identify what’s holding you back and inspired you to make a change. If you feel I’ve helped you in any way, please consider supporting my work by purchasing something from my store for yourself or a loved one. Your support allows me to continue writing and serving others.
Thank you in advance, and here’s to your transformation!
Warm regards,
Isabelle
